The Wellness Revolution Podcast with Amber Shaw

366. Your Trauma Doesn’t Define You: Alreen Haeggquist on Abuse, Family Secrets and Personal Healing

Have you ever felt like staying silent was the safest option—even when it was eating you alive?

 

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I sit down with attorney, author, and trauma survivor Alreen Haeggquist for a deeply moving and eye-opening conversation about what it truly takes to transform pain into power. 

 

From growing up in an abusive home to building a life of healing, advocacy, and impact, Alreen shares her journey of reclaiming her voice, her worth, and her life. We dive into how unprocessed trauma can show up in relationships, parenting, and work, and how to begin the healing journey even if you don’t know where to start. This episode is an empowering reminder that your past doesn’t get to define you—unless you let it.

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What We Discuss:

  • How trauma from childhood impacts adulthood, relationships, and parenting

  • Reclaiming your voice and power after abuse or emotional silencing

  • The role of therapy, journaling, and inner child work in the healing process

  • Breaking the cycle of shame and learning how to speak your truth

  • Using your personal story as fuel for helping and empowering others

  • Navigating the emotional layers of healing after divorce or trauma

  • Learning that your past doesn’t define you—and how to rewrite your story

 

Key Takeaways:

“You get to write your own ending. Your past doesn’t get to define your future unless you let it.”

“The moment I stopped hiding was the moment I started healing.”

 

Find more from Alreen Haeggquist:

Website: https://www.alreen.com/

 

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