The Wellness Revolution Podcast with Amber Shaw
420. Can You Really Change Your Attachment Style? Dr. Judy Ho Says Yes
Do you ever wonder why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns, even when you know better? Or why you feel totally secure with some people but anxious, avoidant, or distant with others? The truth is, your attachment style might have more to do with it than you think.
In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I sit down with clinical psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Judy Ho to talk about her new book, The New Rules of Attachment. We break down how your attachment style shows up in every area of your life—not just relationships—and what it really takes to move toward secure attachment. Dr. Judy and I talk about how to reparent your inner child, nurture your authentic self, and finally create the kind of security and connection you’ve always wanted.
If you’ve been stuck in the same emotional cycles and want to feel grounded, secure, and confident in your relationships again, then this episode is for you.
Resources Mentioned:
- The New Rules of Attachment by Dr. Judy Ho: https://drjudyho.com/books/the-new-rules-of-attachment/
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What We Discuss:
- 00:22 What attachment styles are and why they matter more than you think
- 05:58 The four main attachment styles and how they form
- 15:34 How attachment styles connect to love languages
- 18:47 What reparenting your inner child really means
- 25:33 How to nurture your inner child’s unmet needs
- 26:11 Why your authentic self and inner child are deeply connected
- 27:37 Can you really change your attachment style? (Dr. Judy says yes!)
- 34:58 How parenting style and temperament affect your child’s attachment
- 42:13 How to find balance in your parenting style
Find more from Dr Judy Ho:
Website: https://drjudyho.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho/
Find more from Amber Shaw:
Instagram: @msambershaw
Website: ambershaw.com