360. The Truth About Feeling Invisible in Marriage and Healing After Divorce with Gina Conover

Feeling totally invisible in your marriage, even though divorce was the last thing you wanted?

 

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I chat with Gina Conover, a coach who helps women heal from divorces they never saw coming after years of feeling unseen in their marriages. We dig into that painful mind-twist many women face—feeling like a ghost in their own relationship while still desperately wanting to make it work. Gina breaks down her concept of “the orbiting effect,” where we end up circling our partners like satellites, losing ourselves completely in a desperate attempt to be noticed. 

 

Gina shares some game-changing strategies for breaking free, including a simple technique to flip those obsessive questions into statements that actually help you process emotions (instead of spinning in circles). We talk about rebuilding trust in yourself, how to know when you’re actually ready to date again (hint: being okay alone is key!), and creating a healthy co-parenting situation—even with someone who made you feel invisible for years.

 

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What We Discuss:

• Why women struggle to let go of painful marriages

• Understanding “the orbiting effect” and how it keeps you stuck

• The emotional toll of invisibility in a relationship

• How anxious attachment manifests after divorce

• Rebuilding trust in yourself and learning to be okay alone

• Navigating co-parenting while still healing

 

Key Takeaways:

“If I need them to step in and make me feel okay versus I’m okay on my own and I want to share my life with someone.”

“It’s okay that it’s hard. It’s okay that you’re hurting. It’s okay that you’re heartbroken and feel betrayed.”

 

Find more from Gina Conover:

Website: confidentlydivorced.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidently_divorced/

 

Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

Website: ambershaw.com 

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@msambershaw