381. How to Stop Living for Your Kids and Start Living for Yourself

What if being a great mom wasn’t about giving everything, but about finally giving some of that love back to yourself?

 

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I’m getting real about mom guilt—especially how it shows up after divorce. I share why guilt runs so deep for single moms, how we’ve been conditioned to believe that being selfless is the gold standard, and why overcompensating for your ex, your choices, or your kids’ emotions isn’t making you a better mom—it’s burning you out.

 

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What I Discuss:

• The unspoken pressure moms feel and why mom guilt hits harder post-divorce

• The cultural messaging that tells moms to be selfless at all costs

• Overcompensating for divorce, deadbeat exes, or emotional fear

• What your kids actually need (hint: it’s not a martyr)

• Redefining what being a good mom really looks like

• Small ways to reclaim space, rest, and joy

• Why you need community

 

Key Takeaways:

“Your kids don’t need a martyr—they need a mom who’s alive in her own life.” – Amber Shaw

 

“You don’t have to prove your love by losing yourself.” – Amber Shaw

 

“Being a good mom doesn’t mean giving everything—it means giving from a place that’s not empty.” – Amber Shaw

 

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