The Wellness Revolution Podcast with Amber Shaw

400. How High-Functioning Women Often Self-Abandon in Relationships with Megan Sherer

July 31, 2025

You can be successful, self-aware, and high-functioning—and still completely lose yourself in a relationship.

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I’m joined by integrative therapist and somatic practitioner Megan Sherer for a deeply honest conversation about how even the most self-sufficient women can unconsciously self-abandon when love is on the line. We unpack how nervous system conditioning, attachment styles, and childhood trauma shape our romantic patterns and why it’s so hard to walk away from someone who feels like home, even when they aren’t safe for your healing.

If you’ve been losing yourself in relationships that require you to shrink, fix, or prove your worth, this episode is for you.

Resources Mentioned:

Megan’s book: www.megansherer.com/book
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What We Discuss:

What self-abandonment actually looks like in high-functioning women
Why emotionally unavailable partners can feel so familiar
How nervous system dysregulation ties into who we choose and why
The role of “somatic safety” in building real trust with yourself
Why clarity is found in the body—not just the mind
How to stop abandoning yourself and finally choose aligned love