The Wellness Revolution Podcast with Amber Shaw

426. Don’t Open the Dating App Until You Hear This: Dating After Divorce with Erica McKay

October 30, 2025

If the thought of swiping again makes you want to throw your phone across the room, this conversation is for you.

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I’m joined by Erica McKay—modern-day matchmaker, relationship realist, and founder of Erica Suzanne Matchmaking—for an honest and surprisingly uplifting convo on what dating after divorce really looks like. We talk about how to date with more intention (and way less pressure), why it’s essential to focus on how you want to feel in your next relationship, and the power of doing the inner work before you hand over your number.

Whether you’re cautiously dipping a toe into dating apps or completely swearing them off, this episode will help you date slower, date smarter, and maybe even feel excited about love again.

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What We Discuss:

05:00 Mistakes to avoid when rejoining dating apps
08:08 Erica’s story: From divorce to finding real love again
11:22 Building a coaching business as a divorced mom
12:45 Why you should visualize how you want to feel, not just what you want
19:12 Why inner work is essential before reentering the dating pool
22:04 The power of saying “yes” to new experiences
24:52 Navigating new relationships post-divorce
28:12 Dating questions to ask early—and which ones to avoid
35:54 How to date slower and deeper
40:42 Alcohol on first dates: yay or nay?
42:34 How matchmaking works (and when to consider it)
46:11 Introducing Young Lux for 22–38 year-olds