460. How to Tell If They’re Ready to Work With You (Or Just Venting in Your DMs)

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Ever get stuck in the DMs with someone who says they want help but nothing actually moves forward?

 

In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I’m breaking down something that trips up so many new coaches—how to tell if someone is actually ready to work with you or if they’re just venting, looking for validation, or not quite there yet.

 

I talk about why so many discovery calls go nowhere, why people ghost after saying “yes,” and how over-coaching in the DMs is usually a sign that you’re missing one key skill: discernment. When you don’t know how to spot readiness, you overextend yourself. You over-give and start to feel resentful. And then burnout creeps in.

 

But when you know what to look for? Everything changes.

 

Resources Mentioned:

• Join the waitlist for ReNewU, my signature group program for divorced moms ready to launch a coaching business that actually pays: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist

 

What I Discuss:

• 02:43 Why someone can genuinely want a better life, business, or relationship and still not be ready to do the work.
• 04:42 The subtle difference between someone venting about their circumstances and someone who’s actually ready to move forward
• 05:51 Signs of client readiness 
• 07:22 What it looks like when someone is really just looking for reassurance
• 09:26 How having a rinse-and-repeat framework helps you qualify clients without pressure, chasing, or second-guessing yourself

 

Find more from Amber Shaw:

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Website: ambershaw.com