The Wellness Revolution Podcast with Amber Shaw

TWR 064: The Impact of the Nervous System on Romantic Relationships with Lauren Zoeller

The way we connect and have relationships with people is strongly based on whether our nervous system is regulated or not. The regulation of our nervous system, on the other hand, is strongly based on old unhealed traumas that may have happened in childhood or just weeks ago. These wounds manifest as relationship insecurities and problems when we are adults, and most people simply don’t know how to address it.

In this episode of The Wellness Revolution, Amber speaks with Lauren Zoeller. Lauren is a Somatic Relationship Expert who helps people deal with tough situations in relationships through managing their feelings and calming their nervous system. Lauren explains the 4Fs of common nervous system reactions: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn. Each one guides us on how we will respond to anxiety inducing moments. Tune in!

Wellness Quote

  • “When your nervous system and your brain are not aligned with one another, you’re going to constantly self sabotage in your romantic relationships and in any dating situation that you’re going to be in.” – Lauren Zoeller

Key Highlights

  • Lauren explains what is a somatic relationship coach, telling a little bit about her own story and background and how she started this career;
  • Lauren explains that the first step to start having sane relationships is identifying what doesn’t feel good in the relationship;
  • What is anxious attachment and what are the common actions and thoughts of someone who has it?
  • Some inner child wounds can manifest as relationship issues in adulthood and the first step to change this is being aware of it;
  • Lauren explains the 4Fs (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and how to regulate our nervous system in order to get better results in relationships;
  • Lauren gives the listeners tips and strategies to implement when having first dates, getting to know someone for the first time, or using dating apps.

Related Links

Happy Days by Gabrielle Bernstein

About Lauren Zoeller

Lauren Zoeller is a Somatic Relationship Expert, motivational speaker and podcast host. She has achieved overwhelming success in helping high performing, female executives attract a dream relationship and a life they crave. She is the creator of The Aligned Love Experience™, a cutting edge coaching program that teaches female visionaries how to find aligned love and co-owner of SHIFT with Sanctuary™, an elevated inner circle for the 1% woman who is ready to step into sacred leadership, divine love, energetic longevity and her abundant legacy.

Connect with Lauren


Instagram: @laurenzoeller

Facebook: Lauren Zoeller

YouTube: Lauren Zoeller

About Amber Shaw

Amber is a Body Transformation Expert, Founder of The Wellness Revolution, motivational speaker, and NBC Health and Wellness Coach. Having built a lifestyle that allowed her to embrace work, children, exercise, and well-balanced eating habits, Amber now works with helping and coaching women to achieve the same level of serenity and empowerment through a sustainable way of living.

Connect with Amber

Instagram: @msambershaw

TikTok: @msambershaw


Facebook: Amber Shaw

FREE Guide on Intermittent Fasting: