The Wellness Revolution Podcast with Amber Shaw

TWR 164: From Conflict to Connection: Communication Strategies for Couples

Are you tired of feeling like you and your partner are constantly on different pages when it comes to communication? Do you struggle to express your feelings without putting your partner on the defensive? If so, you won’t want to miss this episode of Amber’s journey toward improving her communication skills and transforming her relationship with her partner.

Through three powerful reframes, Amber was able to shift her language and take responsibility for her own emotions, leading to greater compassion and openness in her relationship. The first reframe Amber learned was to express hurt to her partner without using “you” statements. She learned to instead use “I” statements to communicate her feelings in a non-threatening way, which elicited more compassion and understanding from her partner because her partner was less likely to get on the defensive.

Amber also recognized that our triggers in a relationship often have nothing to do with our partner, but rather our own historical experiences. Understanding this allowed her to communicate more effectively and avoid getting triggered.

To learn more in-depth about all three reframes that are sure to improve your communications with your loved ones, tune into this episode. Amber’s journey and insights will inspire you to improve the way you interact with others. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship, newly dating, or even single and just looking to improve your communication skills, this episode is for you.

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Key Highlights:

  • Amber discovered three powerful reframes that helped her shift her language and take responsibility for her own emotions, leading to greater compassion and openness in her relationship.
  • Using “You” statements with our partners to express our hurt can come across as accusatory and put the recipient of these statements on the defensive.
  • Communicating our feelings without using “you” statements can lead to more productive conversations, as “I” statements can communicate our emotions in a non-threatening way.
  • Understanding that our triggers often have little to do with our partner’s behavior can help avoid unnecessary conflict and facilitate more effective communication.
  • Apologizing without including explanations for our behaviors can be a powerful tool for repairing damaged relationships, as it can help validate the other person’s feelings and repair trust.

About Amber Shaw

Amber is a Mind and Body Transformation Expert, Founder of The Wellness Revolution, motivational speaker, and NBC Health and Wellness Coach. Having built a lifestyle that allowed her to embrace work, children, exercise, and well-balanced eating habits, Amber now works helping and coaching women to achieve the same level of serenity and empowerment through a sustainable way of living.

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