The Wellness Revolution Podcast with Amber Shaw

TWR 289: Benu Lahiry: Proactive Couples Therapy for Building Connection & Love

Have you ever felt like you and your partner are living in different realities when it comes to your relationship? 


In this episode of the Wellness Revolution podcast, I chat with Benu Lahiry, a couples therapist and founder of the digital therapy platform Ours. We discuss the important fact that you don’t have to be in a bad place to benefit from couples therapy. Just like going to the doctor for a wellness checkup, attending therapy sessions can help you and your partner grow together, understand each other better, and prevent future ruptures in your relationship.


Benu shares her insights on navigating difficult conversations, cultivating presence, and the importance of being open to your partner’s perspective. Together we discuss how Ours is making couples therapy more accessible and convenient through their virtual platform and personalized matching process. 


Benu Lahiry, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Washington and in California, specializing in Individual and Couples Counseling. Her work is especially helpful for people functioning at a high level already but who are experiencing anxiety, depression, self-doubt, and lack of motivation. 


Thank you to our sponsors:

Cured Nutrition: Use code AMBER to get 15% off at 

HigherDose: Use code AMBER15 to get 15% off at 

Find more from Benu Lahiry:


Instagram: @ours.wellness


Find more from Amber:

Instagram: @msambershaw

TikTok: @msambershaw


Free Weight Loss, Health & Wellness


What We Discuss:

02:54 The Importance of Relationship Therapy and Access to Therapy

06:02 Challenges in Finding the Right Couples Therapist

10:57 Understanding and Empathizing with a Partner’s Perspective

27:01 The Benefits of Couples Therapy

29:18 Resistance to Therapy and Virtual Platforms

30:14 Integrating Therapy and Coaching

36:17 The Power of Presence in Relationships

39:02 Self-Awareness and Self-Growth

44:48 Preventive Therapy: Investing in Relationship Health

Key Takeaways:

  • Access to relationship therapy is crucial, especially during critical moments in a relationship.

  • Finding the right therapist for couples can be challenging and time-consuming.

  • Understanding and empathizing with a partner’s perspective is essential for healthy communication.

  • Open communication and vulnerability are key to resolving conflicts in relationships. Couples therapy can be beneficial for all couples, not just those in crisis.

  • Virtual platforms like Ours make therapy more accessible and convenient.

  • There is a need for integration between therapy and coaching.

  • Presence and self-awareness are important in maintaining healthy relationships.

  • Therapy should be seen as a preventive measure rather than a last resort.